Super Soul Sunday-Maya Angelou

i am currently watching “Super Soul Sunday” on the OWN network. i am inspired. i am inspired just because.

absolutely no reason in sight but in heart. i am inspired to love. i am inspired to write. i am inspired to be free.

today on Super Soul Sunday the well known poet, Maya Angelou speaks. she speaks about God, she speaks about One, she speaks about All. She speaks about Spirit. i find myself on this spiritual journey to understand and learn my own  true purpose in life.

i was told by my therapist that life is a “school”…a school of learning ..a school of connecting.. a school of being. i didn’t understand her true meaning but on this rainy Sunday morning ,I get it.  i found myself going throughout life constantly resisting the inevitable which caused me to not really live in the moment…not really experience life and resist the desire to just “be”  while using all 5 senses-touch,taste, see,hear,smell to enjoy.

meditation,writing,art and this spiritual journey are those things that is  helping me stay grounded..helping me to be bold, fearless, let go, love, feel and be.

5 Ways to Personalize Your Space

creating a space just for you can be life changing.  learning to let go of all things that no longer serve your purpose is liberating. i am in the process of moving into my sisters home.  majority of my things are going into storage.  this moving process  has motivated me to access all things i own.  based on a previous post  i am thrill to eliminate all things that does not represent who i am today.  i am willing to just let go of all things that represents a negative memory or cause me to feel any negative emotion.

i am going to design my new space based on all things that compliments who I am:whimsical, colorful, spontaneous,bold,hippie

when personalizing your space it is important to use the remaining  items you have left over after letting go.  think of your space as a “blank canvass”

1. Discover

get outside and get inspired by your surrounding images and colors. give yourself permission to imagine who you are and who you want to become.

2.Paint

start by choose a color that represents your personality.  you can paint the entire wall or choose an accent wall. when choosing a color always consider the lighting in your space.  one of my favorite colors are violet but my new living space has  little lighting.   i have decided to accent my space with green to appear bigger and brighter.

3. Add a Staple Piece

be it a painting or sofa, it is important to add a staple piece to your space. t i have decided to order a black futon i saw  at Target.

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4. Lighting

changing the lighting of a room can also enhance the energy of your space. Ikea has the most affordable lighting fixtures. I enjoy going

here because the possibilities are endless.

5. Add Flair to Windows

i never really knew how windows played an intricate part in the  overall feel of a  living space. when personalizing your space look for fabrics,textures and colors that speaks to you. you can go with a combination of window shades combined with drapes or drapes alone.  look for colors that compliments your staple piece and chosen wall color.

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there is nothing like going home to a space that represents who you are.

Take Off Your Cool-Satorial Sounds

as i was getting ready at 6:30 this morning,  i felt i needed that extra boost of inspiration.

as i made my way into the restroom i was inspired to open  Youtube & listen to Sartorial Sounds by a group of 7 artist coming together to share their love of all things “creative”.  as i listened to it i found  myself wanting  to  harken back to the 60’s wearing a vintage inspired pencil skirt, fedora style hat and mother of pearls earrings while sitting at a  Juke Joint with friends doing absolutely nothing but enjoying time, space and creativity.

“Sartorial Sounds integrates both music and style, two elements embedded in every culture past and present. We think it’s important to remember that everyone is an artist in their own right. And it’s the life experiences we encounter that provoke what we splash on our own blank canvas.”

Satorial Sounds

Artist included

Jesse Boykins III
Joekenneth Museau
Theo Martins
Joshua Bennett
Melo-X
Mara Hruby
Rinaldy Alvarez

-Street Etiquette

what inspires you? how do you express that creativity?

Vintage Style: Ferris from L.A.

Happy Monday!

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  Where are you from?
I am proudly from Oakland, Ca. However I currently lay my head in Los Angeles, CA. It will actually be a year next month.

Describe when you first discovered your love for vintage style

This is actually a hard question to breakdown in to the one time. Basically, i grew up in thrift stores out of necessity, as a family we had to make things work so the thrift store was the best option at times. Of course as a youngster it wasn’t always the place that I wanted to get clothing from; I wanted what everyone else had and wanted to be cool. That actually sounds a little crazy because cool is hella relative, and usually the norm of cool is contrived and BLAHHHHH! lol! Anyway as I got older and really started developing my own personal style thrift stores became one of my own personal favorites! I mean you could find dope ass gear and 98% of the time no one else would have it on, or even think of wearing it. I had, and still have, a profound love for tye dye and had zero problem sporting many a tye dye t-shirt in high school, or a 60’s polyester striped top or floral dress I got from my grandmother. I love the uniqueness of vintage and the fact that you can find some of the most awesome items on a trip to the thrift store or at times a vintage boutique. I love the feeling of finding a dope as piece and thinking of how I am going to wear, even if that means keeping it for years until the right look comes into my head. I know that may sound a little intense but, I mean it is! 🙂

How would you describe your individual style?

I would describe it as free. I wear what I like and what looks good on my body type. That last part is the key, wearing what looks good on your body because every item, thing, piece you may like isn’t nessecarly the same thing that will look good on your body. There are some things I REALLLY love and that is dresses!!! I LOVE DRESSES! One piece and you are done! I am on a mission right now to get as many dresses as possible, so that with my lack of hair and throwing on a dress my dressing time will come down considerably! YAY, for that!

How are you inspired and what inspires your individual style?
I am inspired by themes of ethnicity, color, texture and utter uniqueness. All of us wear clothing but there are those that can make an outfit look like art. Being walking art is a great concept and great way to liven up the day. I am not afraid of any color or texture or style, just as long as I like it and its fits ( as I stated above). I also am greatly inspired by my mood, which is reflective also in my makeup. I know that alot of inspiration does come from numerous hours of browsing blogs and mags for most folks, but I have found lately that my fashion mags are gathering more dust than usage. And as regards blogs, wellllllllll, the truth is I dont really look at them. I do troll my tumblr feed, but it for sure isn’t the source for me. I am attracted to many medias of self expression and art which really, to me, what style is – art.

Any Suggestions for our readers?
Suggestions —– ummmmmm, lol! Stay BLACK! NAW, seriously tho. My suggestions would be wear what makes you comfortable and makes you look FUCKING AWESOME! Who doesn’t want to be AWESOME!!?!?!? And too if you are into vintage but dont really wanna search thru all the racks at thrift stores well you should for sure hire someone or ask a friend to help you shop. Vintage shopping is always worth it and you NEVER know what you might find. And I suggest you all keep up with me, www.urbnvntg.com which can link you to all my social media thangs!

Peace, Love & Vintage!!!
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To learn more about Ferriss Style..you can visit her at www.urbnvntg.com

Vulnerability: Daring Greatly

“vulnerability opens the door to real intimacy”

-Oprah

as i watch “Super Soul Sunday..this quote has struck that “aha moment” with me. for a while i have kept many parts of me deep down within myself: almost denying who i am.  i now have an understanding that being open..being you regardless of all that it entails..is what is important. i now have made the choice to allow myself the permission to be vulnerable. i am not perfect. i find myself feeling scared. i am afraid of failure and at times success.  i am an artist. i am the youngest of 5. i have random heart conversations with my deceased grandfather,Daniel.  i dream this life of travel and art while meeting and loving amazing individuals. i feel pain. i feel joy. i feel hesitant. i feel life.

i play “roles” that’s expected of me: sister, daughter,friend, artist, african american woman, aunt, protector, provider, lover, giver, employee,etc. all i am is me…Amanda. i have learn that  fighting what reality really is ..causes the most suffering.

i am willing  and ready to be open…be expressive. share my needs,desires,wants.

i have learned  that no one wants to be vulnerable because of fear. no one wants to let go of all inhibitions because of the fear of being judged. but at the end of the day all you have is self.

5 Tips to Pull Off Bruno Mars Style

this man has style, attitude and ego to spare(in the words of Cody Chestnut). it seems that  i fall more in love with his style, music and finesse every time he appears on  cover of a magazine or media piece.  i have been working on incorporating various pieces into my own wardrobe.  To really add a “Bruno Mars” flare into your closet you must own these 5 pieces.

 

1. Fedora

i have never cared for women’s fedora..they seem to big although my head is big.lol

i like men fedoras because they seem to fit on your head just right

 

2. White T

since i purchase Hanes white T’s in Men…i have to wear the smallest size possible. they seem to fit better

 

3.Chucks

who doesn’t own a pair of Chucks?  I say get yourself a pair in basic colors-black, blue, red or grey.

they can be worn to the office or just chilling around the house in some jeans and a plan white T

 

4. The One & Only RayBans

I can pull off Bruno Mars Style with our these bad boys! I do not really care for the shiny coat but I prefer the matte finish.

I have been thinking about purchasing some eye glass frames with the RayBan Style.

 

5. Blazer

switch it up. you can never go wrong with a blazer…it can be dressed up for the office or dressed down paired with some chucks(pic above)

8 Steps to Self Discovery

have you ever felt lost in the wide space of life? i have. i find myself on a constant search of who i am. i often ask myself who am i? since i have been meditating with inspiration from my vision board life seems to become more clearer. it is easy to go throughout life inspired by someone else’s dreams or perspective of you.  i begun to feel unfulfilled once i realize my life was so predictable:breakfast,work, home, family,etc.  i knew i needed a change and a glimpse of inspiration.

its been over a month and a half and when i look back at my vision board, which is filled with words such as “calm”, “inner vision”,”boldness”, “creativity”…i am starting to become those things. i am starting to create a life filled with peace, joy and understanding.

i believe life is a constant change . we are always evolving into the person we are meant to become. after sitting in the library and flipping through Oprah’s “O” magazine I was inspired by Xorin Balbes, author and designer of “Soul Space“. he mentions that “when you start living in an environment that’s more like you, then others can see more of you” . Have you ever wondered how your environment or space has a direct reflect of your mood and who you are as a person….either from your work,home and social space.

Here are a 8 steps to help recreate your space into the person you are.

1. Assess

First, step back and consider your home like a neutral observer. “The idea is to take an inventory to determine what’s in there that you love, and what’s just taking up space,” Balbes says. Questions to ask include: Which rooms make you feel most comfortable? Is there a room you never use? What’s the first thing you see when you wake up in the morning? When you walk through the door? Are there items in your home that no longer reflect who you are? What have you outgrown? Don’t make a to-do list yet; just note your strongest impressions, and keep an eye out for hidden inspiration. Says Balbes, “Often our deepest, truest style is represented by a single object in our homes—say, a piece of clothing or jewelry, or a picture.”

2. Release

Now it’s time to cull. Balbes suggests the following guidelines for separating what to keep from what to sell, donate to charity, give to friends, recycle, or toss:

Let go of anything that…

Is collecting dust
“Garages, basements, and attics are full of items that should be released,” Balbes says. “Get rid of all that weight and set yourself free.”

Dredges up unpleasant emotions
Even if the item in question is valuable, if its provenance makes you feel crummy, it can’t stay. “If you have a chair that’s pretty but was an inheritance from a horrid old aunt who was always criticizing you,” Balbes says, “let it go. It’s an anchor to the past.” Likewise, don’t keep photos around if you don’t adore the people in them.

Doesn’t work anymore
If it’s damaged beyond repair, outdated enough to be useless, or worn out to the point of shabbiness, give it the heave-ho.

Is uncomfortable
Out with scratchy blankets, chairs that are awkward to sit on, too-tight pants—anything that irritates rather than delights.

Keep anything that…

You love
When evaluating what belongs in your home, Balbes sets the bar high: You must actually love it. And while this kind of emotional connection may seem possible only with things like fine art and keepsakes, he believes that even mundane objects (think spatulas and bath towels) should make you happy when you use them: “Everything you surround yourself with either lifts you up or brings you down.”

3. Cleanse

You’ve decided what will stay and what must go. Now break out the vacuum cleaner, the wood polish, the iron—and care for your home. Open your windows and let in the breeze. Replace lightbulbs. Rotate your mattress. Tend to necessary repairs. At the same time you’re literally cleaning your environment, Balbes says, you also want to clear out any emotional cobwebs. In rooms where you’ve experienced loss or pain, he recommends burning sage or sweetgrass, an energy cleansing technique favored by Native Americans. Balbes refers to this phase as “spring cleaning for the soul.”

4. Dream

You’ve released the past; this next phase is all about the future. Who are you now and who do you want to become? “Let yourself experience new things,” says Balbes. “Go to new restaurants, roam around new neighborhoods—it’s about getting inspired.” You might make a vision board, filling it not with standard-issue photos of mega-mansions but with images that make your spirit soar. Maybe you dream of sailing, or English gardens, or Bali. “You want to go into a very meditative mode of just flipping through magazines and tearing out things you feel a connection with,” Balbes says. “Don’t do it from a place of thinking.”

5. Discover

Now bring those dreams to life by finding the objects that express your true self. Look at catalogs. Browse flea markets. Surf websites like eBay, Craigslist, and Etsy. “I think people get stuck in routines and styles,” Balbes says. “It’s important to open up. Let your imagination lead the way.”

6. Create

Your budget will dictate the scope of your improvements, but even minor changes can make a big difference. You might rearrange the furniture in your living room to make it more inviting for friends to drop by, or move your desk next to a window so it gets more natural light. Want to paint your bedroom sky blue? Hang a chandelier in the bathroom? Now’s the time. Expert opinions don’t matter here; this process, Balbes stresses, is about “you really making your home yours.”

7. Elevate

Now for the finishing touches, or what Balbes calls grace notes. Often we don’t make the effort to add a vase of flowers in our favorite colors, turn on some music, and spritz the air with an appealing scent, yet it takes only a moment—and very little cash—to bring in these uplifting elements.

8. Celebrate

“For some people the soul space process might take years to fully express,” Balbes says. “But if you can even start it, you’re beginning to connect to your true essence.” It’s important to invite people over to share your home’s transformation, he notes, “because when you start living in an environment that’s more like you, then others can see more of you. And hopefully you’re inspiring them to become more of who they are, too.”

I Need Your Feedback

hello you,

after participating in an online Twitter  #video chat with Modcloth  I thought it would be a  great idea to ask you ” what  do you want to see happen in the future of  TheAbsoluteMost?

Sometimes as a blogger it is so easy to view life from your own perspective with the readers’ consideration.

What do the readers want?

It is important that I provide you with content that is useful .  I would like to know what changes would you like to see happen with TheAbsoluteMost?

When you think of “TheAbsoluteMost”? ..what comes to mind?

What advice would you give a fellow lifestyle blogger to connect with readers and like-minded individuals?

What would you suggest when trying to find useful content to write about and prevent “writers block”?

I am looking to connect with you. Your feedback is appreciated.

Regards,

Amanda