8 Steps to Self Discovery

have you ever felt lost in the wide space of life? i have. i find myself on a constant search of who i am. i often ask myself who am i? since i have been meditating with inspiration from my vision board life seems to become more clearer. it is easy to go throughout life inspired by someone else’s dreams or perspective of you.  i begun to feel unfulfilled once i realize my life was so predictable:breakfast,work, home, family,etc.  i knew i needed a change and a glimpse of inspiration.

its been over a month and a half and when i look back at my vision board, which is filled with words such as “calm”, “inner vision”,”boldness”, “creativity”…i am starting to become those things. i am starting to create a life filled with peace, joy and understanding.

i believe life is a constant change . we are always evolving into the person we are meant to become. after sitting in the library and flipping through Oprah’s “O” magazine I was inspired by Xorin Balbes, author and designer of “Soul Space“. he mentions that “when you start living in an environment that’s more like you, then others can see more of you” . Have you ever wondered how your environment or space has a direct reflect of your mood and who you are as a person….either from your work,home and social space.

Here are a 8 steps to help recreate your space into the person you are.

1. Assess

First, step back and consider your home like a neutral observer. “The idea is to take an inventory to determine what’s in there that you love, and what’s just taking up space,” Balbes says. Questions to ask include: Which rooms make you feel most comfortable? Is there a room you never use? What’s the first thing you see when you wake up in the morning? When you walk through the door? Are there items in your home that no longer reflect who you are? What have you outgrown? Don’t make a to-do list yet; just note your strongest impressions, and keep an eye out for hidden inspiration. Says Balbes, “Often our deepest, truest style is represented by a single object in our homes—say, a piece of clothing or jewelry, or a picture.”

2. Release

Now it’s time to cull. Balbes suggests the following guidelines for separating what to keep from what to sell, donate to charity, give to friends, recycle, or toss:

Let go of anything that…

Is collecting dust
“Garages, basements, and attics are full of items that should be released,” Balbes says. “Get rid of all that weight and set yourself free.”

Dredges up unpleasant emotions
Even if the item in question is valuable, if its provenance makes you feel crummy, it can’t stay. “If you have a chair that’s pretty but was an inheritance from a horrid old aunt who was always criticizing you,” Balbes says, “let it go. It’s an anchor to the past.” Likewise, don’t keep photos around if you don’t adore the people in them.

Doesn’t work anymore
If it’s damaged beyond repair, outdated enough to be useless, or worn out to the point of shabbiness, give it the heave-ho.

Is uncomfortable
Out with scratchy blankets, chairs that are awkward to sit on, too-tight pants—anything that irritates rather than delights.

Keep anything that…

You love
When evaluating what belongs in your home, Balbes sets the bar high: You must actually love it. And while this kind of emotional connection may seem possible only with things like fine art and keepsakes, he believes that even mundane objects (think spatulas and bath towels) should make you happy when you use them: “Everything you surround yourself with either lifts you up or brings you down.”

3. Cleanse

You’ve decided what will stay and what must go. Now break out the vacuum cleaner, the wood polish, the iron—and care for your home. Open your windows and let in the breeze. Replace lightbulbs. Rotate your mattress. Tend to necessary repairs. At the same time you’re literally cleaning your environment, Balbes says, you also want to clear out any emotional cobwebs. In rooms where you’ve experienced loss or pain, he recommends burning sage or sweetgrass, an energy cleansing technique favored by Native Americans. Balbes refers to this phase as “spring cleaning for the soul.”

4. Dream

You’ve released the past; this next phase is all about the future. Who are you now and who do you want to become? “Let yourself experience new things,” says Balbes. “Go to new restaurants, roam around new neighborhoods—it’s about getting inspired.” You might make a vision board, filling it not with standard-issue photos of mega-mansions but with images that make your spirit soar. Maybe you dream of sailing, or English gardens, or Bali. “You want to go into a very meditative mode of just flipping through magazines and tearing out things you feel a connection with,” Balbes says. “Don’t do it from a place of thinking.”

5. Discover

Now bring those dreams to life by finding the objects that express your true self. Look at catalogs. Browse flea markets. Surf websites like eBay, Craigslist, and Etsy. “I think people get stuck in routines and styles,” Balbes says. “It’s important to open up. Let your imagination lead the way.”

6. Create

Your budget will dictate the scope of your improvements, but even minor changes can make a big difference. You might rearrange the furniture in your living room to make it more inviting for friends to drop by, or move your desk next to a window so it gets more natural light. Want to paint your bedroom sky blue? Hang a chandelier in the bathroom? Now’s the time. Expert opinions don’t matter here; this process, Balbes stresses, is about “you really making your home yours.”

7. Elevate

Now for the finishing touches, or what Balbes calls grace notes. Often we don’t make the effort to add a vase of flowers in our favorite colors, turn on some music, and spritz the air with an appealing scent, yet it takes only a moment—and very little cash—to bring in these uplifting elements.

8. Celebrate

“For some people the soul space process might take years to fully express,” Balbes says. “But if you can even start it, you’re beginning to connect to your true essence.” It’s important to invite people over to share your home’s transformation, he notes, “because when you start living in an environment that’s more like you, then others can see more of you. And hopefully you’re inspiring them to become more of who they are, too.”


Cover:Rollingstone Features Bruno Mars

although this is his first time covering “RollingStone“..he still looks as stylish as ever.

it is immensely disappointing that i have yet to purchase my tickets to see Bruno Mars in concert in Atlanta.


How to Wear a Fedora

since i have been a fan of Bruno Mars ,i found myself being more adventurous with styling. The styling possibilities are endless.

Fedoras come in many shapes and colors but it seems that Fedoras for men are more stylish than those for women.  the history of Fedoras date all the way back to the 18th century and was inspired by a play.   recently, women have started incorporating Fedoras in their wardrobe.

i own one Fedora but really didn’t know how to wear it ,but with some research here are some tips I have compiled.

    • Make Sure It Fits:ensure the front brim isn’t too tight nor too loose
    • Have Fun:  try on many different styles until you are confident it is the one for you since face/head shapes vary from person to person
    • Express Your Personality:express your personality by changing the different angles of the Fedora.

Bruno Mars: The Moonshine Jungle Tour 2013


I am so excited ! I am such a huge Bruno Mars fan.  I never thought this day would come where Bruno Mars announces his 2013 tour dates.  He will be touring in the U.S. from June 22nd-Aug 30th,2013.

See you there!


Fashion Find: H&M Checked/Beige Blazer

Yesterday, I mentioned in a previous post my inspiration to channel Bruno Mars for this year’s Halloween festivities. While out shopping for my niece  the other day  I think I found the perfect wardrobe piece to add to my finished ensemble: H&M Checked/Beige Blazer for $39.95. This item is a  Fitted jacket in soft fabric with two front flap pockets, one ticket pocket, decorative buttons at cuffs, and a vent at back and comes in a variations of colors:Coral.Dark Blue. Turquoise. & Gray Melange(whatever that is). While trying it on I realized H&M clothing has a tendency to run small, so it is important to remember if you decided to order online.

H&M Checked/Beige Blazer . I am really feeling the beige/brown/black checked combination. It screams Bruno! Bruno! Bruno!

H&M Checked/Beige Blazer $39.95



I will continue to shop around and keep you updated.  Until then I really need your help…..What color shirt and pants should I wear? What about Fedora?

Any advice would be appreciated.

Until next time…..

Halloween Costume Ideas: Channeling Bruno Mars

Bruno MarsYes, I said it. Bruno Mars! On my way to work this morning something told me to listen to the new Bruno Mars single, “Locked Out Of Heaven”. For those that know me, you are aware I am a huge Bruno Mars Fan.  I give it 5 Stars. It is has an upbeat tempo, retro and MoTown vibe.  What best time than any to channel someone you admire or even have a crush on than during Halloween?



All there is left to do is incorporate his style: vintage and with a mix of doo wop.  Where should i start? Oh yeah….vintage stores and thrift shops, of course!  Here are some items I am planning to incorporate. Let me know what your thoughts are.

50’s, Charisma & Fedoras-Bruno is known for his signature Fedoras. My friend, Tai told me I could use her Fedora she picked up from a vintage shoppe in Savannah over the summer. Yay, me!

Bruno Mars

Plaid Shirt & Blazers

Bruno Mars

Bruno Mars<3

Bruno Mars

RayBans- Wayfarer


Bruno Mars

Bruno Mars


As I was browsing my Facebook timeline, the image of this varsity jacket caught my attention. do you guys like? what are your thoughts? i would pair this with some denim skinny jeans and converse for an added flare

“Hailing from the American fashion designer’s 2012 fall/winter collection, this Thom Browne Varsity Jacket makes for an outstanding piece of outerwear. A throwback to college prep and varsity days, the piece uses light brown tweed in its body against contrasting white sleeves and front pocket accents. The silhouette is then artfully finished with a ribbed collar, cuff and waist trimmings in signature red, white and blue stripes. The casual jacket will soon be available here for ¥142,800 JPY(approximately”1,823 USD).” –BY GWYNETH GOH

The Style Bloggers of Colors Conference 2012

Unfortunately, this past weekend I wasn’t able to attend The 2012 Style Bloogers of Colors Conference held in  Atlanta,Georgia.  Claire, Editor-in-Chief over at The FashionBomb was the keynote speak. Go Claire!

Top style bloggers, industry insiders and a keynote speaker touch on some of the most asked questions in the style blogosphere on the following panels:


How you produce dynamic content consistently?  What type of content should I be writing as a blogger? Does consistently really help traffic increase?



What’s the best way to stand out on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest & more? How do you translate social media activity into dollars?



When reaching out to a brand, who should I be contacting? How do I let companies know I’m open to collaboration? What type of blogs do brands want to work with?



How can my blog translate into paying gigs? Will blogging help my small business?


Kimberly Walker of BET.com and EBONY.com, Erin Bailey of Scandalous Beauty, PR maven Nicole Garner of The Garner Circle, beauty editor of Tia Williams (ESSENCE, InStyle, Teen People), Marie Denee of The Curvy Fashionista, Rashon Carraway of The Nate Berkus Show, celebrity stylist Charles Wade (Solange Knowles), Katie Croteau of Google, fashion editor Mahelia de Randamie of Vogue Italia & many more!

I was the many of  few who found out the last minute so making last minute so making reservations didn’t exist.  Thankfully, I reside in Atlanta and I will be keep my fingers cross the 2nd Annual Style Bloggers of Colors Conference is held here.  Did you attend TASBCC? How was your experience?


2012 Style Blogger Color of Conference in Atlanta